I actually found this on another unschooler's blog and even though a few of them are irrelevant to Bram as an unschooler and because of his delays, I thought it would be a good guide. :) The ones crossed out are the ones he's already achieved.
Size* Understands big and little.
* Understands long and short.
* Matches shapes or objects based on size.
Colors and Shapes*
Recognizes and names primary colors.* Recognizes circles.
* Recognizes rectangles.
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Matches shapes or objects based on shape.* Copies shapes.
Numbers* Counts orally through 10.
* Counts objects in one-to-one correspondence.
* Understands empty and full.
* Understands more and less.
Reading Readiness*
Remembers objects from a given picture.*
Knows what a letter is.*
Has been read to frequently.*
Has been read to daily.*
Looks at books and magazines.*
Recognizes some nursery rhymes.*
Identifies parts of the body. (Not all of course, but quite a few.)
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Identifies objects that have a functional use.*
Knows common farm and zoo animals.* Pronounces own first name.
* Pronounces own last name.
* Expresses self verbally.
* Identifies other children by name
* Tells the meaning of simple words.
* Repeats a sentence of 6-8 words.
* Completes incomplete sentence with proper word.
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Has own books.* Understands that print carries a message.
* Pretends to read.
* Uses left-to-right progression.
* Answers questions about a short story.
* Tells the meaning of words heard in story.
* Looks at pictures and tells a story.
* Identifies own first name in manuscript.
* Prints own first name.
Position and Direction* Understands up and down. (He knows up, we're still working on down.)
* Understands in and out.
* Understands front and back.
* Understands over (on) and under.
* Understands top, bottom, middle.
* Understands beside and next to.
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Understands hot and cold.* Understands fast and slow.
Time* Understands day and night.
* Knows age and birthday.
Listening and Sequencing* Follows simple directions.
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Listens to a short story.* Listens carefully.
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Recognizes common sounds.* Repeats a sequence of sounds.
* Repeats a sequence of orally given numbers.
* Retells simple stories in sequence.
Motor Skills
* Is able to run.
* Is able to walk a straight line.
* Is able to jump.
* Is able to hop.
* Is able to alternate feet walking down stairs.
* Is able to march.
* Is able to stand on one foot for 5-10 seconds.
* Is able to walk backwards for five feet.
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Is able to throw a ball.* Pastes objects.
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Claps hands.*
Matches simple objects.*
Touches fingers.* Able to button a garment.
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Builds with blocks.*
Completes simple puzzles(5 pieces or less).* Draws and colors beyond a simple scribble.
* Able to zip a zipper.
* Controls pencil and crayon well.
* Cuts simple shapes.
* Handles scissors well.
* Able to copy simple shapes.
Social-Emotional Development* Can be away from parents or primary care givers for 2-3 hourswithout being upset. (Irrelevant as I've never left him with anyone other than a primary caregiver.)
* Takes care of toilet needs independently.
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Feels good about self.* Is not afraid to go to school. (Irrelevant.)
* Cares for own belongings.
* Knows full name.
* Dresses self.
* Knows how to use handkerchiefor tissue.
* Knows own sex.
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Brushes teeth. (He still needs help of course.)
* Crosses residential street safely.
* Asks to go to school. (Again, irrelevant.)
* Knows parents' names.
* Knows home address.
* Knows home phone number.
* Enters into casual conversation.
* Carries a plate of food.
* Maintains self-control.
* Gets along well with other children.
* Plays with other children. (Yes, but as if they were toys. >.<)
* Recognizes authority.
* Shares with others.
* Talks easily.
* Likes teachers. (Yet again, irrelevant.)
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Meets visitors without shyness.* Puts away toys. (Only with much encouragement.)
* Able to stay on task.
* Able to work independently.
* Helps family with chores.
You can find this list and lists for other grade levels
here.